Today we had a mini celebration for the December born babies in the house. Some people opted not to come. One resident messaged me saying that she was not joining the rest and she does not care of what others will think of her. She is just worried that I will get mad if she did not come.
Why do we celebrate people’s birthday? Why do we go for people’s birthday party? Personally for me, whenever I go for a birthday celebration, it is because I love that particular friend and I want to celebrate his / her birthday. And I will put in effort to give that person my birthday wishes, may it be in a form of gift, cake or card. I will buy the best gift, the best cake or the best card for the person. I will not get things for my friend because it is convenient or just because I have to because I do not want to disappoint my friend, or because I have a reputation to maintain.
If I have no feelings towards that person, I don’t see the reason why I should celebrate their birthday. For me, celebrating one’s birthday is an expression of our love and concern towards that person, a birthday celebration is not for show. It would be hypocritical if a birthday celebration is organized because there was an expectation for it to be organized and not because we ourselves wanted to do it.
Was I mad with those who did not join in the celebration? Perhaps they did not know their housemates well enough to want to care, to share and to celebrate. ….indeed, it is such a shame, but it is also a personal choice, we can’t change it, we can only influence. I was not mad, I was disappointed, yes. I was sad.
Why do we celebrate people’s birthday? Why do we go for people’s birthday party? Personally for me, whenever I go for a birthday celebration, it is because I love that particular friend and I want to celebrate his / her birthday. And I will put in effort to give that person my birthday wishes, may it be in a form of gift, cake or card. I will buy the best gift, the best cake or the best card for the person. I will not get things for my friend because it is convenient or just because I have to because I do not want to disappoint my friend, or because I have a reputation to maintain.
If I have no feelings towards that person, I don’t see the reason why I should celebrate their birthday. For me, celebrating one’s birthday is an expression of our love and concern towards that person, a birthday celebration is not for show. It would be hypocritical if a birthday celebration is organized because there was an expectation for it to be organized and not because we ourselves wanted to do it.
Was I mad with those who did not join in the celebration? Perhaps they did not know their housemates well enough to want to care, to share and to celebrate. ….indeed, it is such a shame, but it is also a personal choice, we can’t change it, we can only influence. I was not mad, I was disappointed, yes. I was sad.
3 comments:
happy birthday to all the december babies from then ..
Jen, can change the commenting ka? Because if I sign in to wp automatically can comment dy. Ha ha ha .. but then urs is only for blogger user.
cibol
Hi Cibol
I have adjusted the comment settings adi, i hope it's ok this time. Thanks for being a regular at my blog =)
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